I have one suggestion for the “Tuesdays with Deborah” group meeting time. I know that “there is no such thing as a stupid question.” Whenever I have had the courage to give voice to a question, other people have had the same question and are pleased it was asked. Likewise, I am always willing to “put the first playing card on the table.” Other people might add playing cards that “cover mine up,” or “trump mine.” YAY! Or maybe we add metaphorical playing cards that complete a whole set of some type.
Being so new to the group – only since mid February 2012 – I feel it is “nervy” of me to “offer a suggestion” here. Please hear the invitation in this post. This group is exactly what I need. I have learned so much from reading contributors’ writing, and from hearing what meeting attendees’ say. I also believe that community members have privileges and responsibilities. I have “heard” Deborah’s invitation to us participants to help shape and add energy and value to the group process. I look forward to comments on this post that might indicate YOUR suggestions.
I have ONE suggestion. I feel it would be beneficial to begin every session with a planned, structured, “ice breaker.” Being “new,” I did not know the first names of everyone in the room, either at the beginning, or at the end, of today’s session. “What if” we were to begin sessions like this:
“We will go around the circle clockwise. Say your first name, and the name you use on the group’s blog, and answer this question. If you don’t have an answer to the question, simply say your name, and ‘pass.’ Here is the question for today. ”
Here is an ice breaker I have had fun with. Bring 20 pennies from, let’s say, the 1980s . Everyone takes a penny and then the question is “Tell us something from your life in that year.”
My friends, I am not saying this is a “good” idea, or a “good” suggestion; it is simply what I have to offer, at this time, in answer to what sounds to me like Deborah’s sincere desire for this group to feel like….. shared authorship/shaping of the group process. Please hear gratitude above all else, because that is what I feel “the most.”