Certificates of Loving-Kindness.
How often have we heard your partner something like “If they would only listen; or, I would just like a break from the kids; or, I’m too tired and I just don’t feel like cooking; or, My feet are killing me.”
Show your love and support by printing up a set of “Certificates of Loving-Kindness” and place them in a decorative envelope beneath your family’s Christmas tree.
Your certificates would read something like “Good for One Night Out by yourself; or Good for One Back, Foot, or Neck rub of your choice; or, Good for one listening session.” You get what I mean. Be creative.
How do Certificates of Loving-Kindness work?
They let your partner know that you do hear them, that you have been listening, that you care, and that you want to be a loving partner to them.
If you don’t know what they want, ask them. Just asking lets them know that you are aware of their needs and that you care.
This is a great way to gift children, too. Their certificates could read, “God for one extra hour of computer time or video game; Good for one hour past bed time; One certificate good for cleaning and putting away the dishes; One certificate good for leaving you room a mess; doing the laundry, and so forth. Basically you are letting them know that you care, and that you are willing to work with them, and that you may be a little more fun than they give you credit for.
You can’t lose, it won’t cost you a dime, and your payoff is millions of dollars worth of love and intimacy.