When I think about the art of working for yourself, I can’t help but think about how we think about others, how they live and what they do for work an how much money they make. We can’t help ourselves but to go there. Most of the time we imagine that those who we think make lots of money and have infinite time on their hands are some sort of chupacabra and their life is somehow better than ours. The funny thing is upon closer inspection most of our lives area just as chaotic as the person who sits next to us in our cubical or lives in our cul-de-sac. No one man or woman having cart blanche on time, money or mental stability.
Why is this even relevant? Why do you compare yourself to someone else? Oh, final question, do you really want their life? If so, why don’t you want to the one you have? I know I went really Deepak Chopra on you, but let’s think about this. Are you really in competition for the same dollars? When you purchased your car did you get the exact same one? Or something similar with the specification you wanted to have. The company you work for pays you and also pays the person next to you. Maybe not the same salary, but close. Okay, maybe more. Just joking. But you get my drift. Why not take competition out of the equation and think about your work and how you live in a way that inspires you? Think of it in this way. Both you and your neighbor can have the same opportunity and both of you will look at taking advantage of this opportunity in your own way in your own time and possibly even using different resources. The art of working for yourself begins to show itself in just this way. By doing things in the way you want to do them. This is probably one the hardest thing to do and re-learn. Because, doing things you want to do and in the way you want to do them takes effort. A lot of effort, until you get the hang of it.
Where we most of the time slip into competition with others is when we have settled for less at some time or another in our lives and feel we must take from others or beat them to the prizein an effort to level the playing field. Most of the time by force, mentally or physically. Then there is usually some sort of satisfaction of false justice you feel believing in part that everything is right with the universe culminating in an end-zone dance. Not even thinking for a minute that what you have is not really yours. You didn’t create it, you probably didn’t even think about until you saw it in their hands and then thought about it. No matter what you call it, I’m sure in some beliefs there are some commandments, covenants or laws of attraction that come into play here. All of which aren’t good. My father always told me to run my own race.
It’s not really your fault. We learn to compete with each other from the time we are very young. To want what isn’t rightfully ours through hard work towards something that we think we want nor haven’t dreamt about. We have worked for someone else for so long we haven’t had an independent thought about what we want for our lives since we played with G.I. Joe or Barbie. When we got our jobs and started working for the man (or woman). Was it the job we always wanted or just a place holder until we found the job we really wanted only to wake up and realize that you have eaten lunch with the same people for the last 15 years? Some of us even attended company picnics and workshops to improve your productivity and learn how to do more with less. Let me re-translate this. How they can get more from you. There, that’s better. Listen, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. This is how business works. If my business isn’t efficient, I’m wasting money. The same goes for the company you work for. If you aren’t putting out, they are wasting money. It’s getting so most companies are like a cross between the movies Office Space and Gatika. We just get to wear khakis and sweat pants that’s all.
Some of us dream of lives that are truly incredible. Actually, most of us do. However we fail to make the connection that our actions must follow this inspired thought. This is the rock on which most of our dreams get smashed. We fail to put our dreams into action. Sure we sometimes make a half hearted effort only to give up at the first sign of adversity or criticism. To live the art of working for yourself is to take the vision of what you want and keep so firmly fixed in your mind that you not only believe that you have what you want. But you will begin to design plans to make it so. Your actions will become inspired and one with your thoughts. Bringing you closer to the art of working for yourself. This will not be easy. Most of us find it hard because we have this weak and cloudy idea of what we want. We haven’t taken the time to form a clear and precise thought of what it is we truly desire. You can’t just have a desire to have lots of money, time on your hands and to be world traveler. Isn’t that what we all want?
Some would argue that we are lazy. I would say, not really. We just haven’t flexed this muscle in a long time. If I were to tell you to make a phone call to your favorite pizza restaurant you would pick up the phone and dial a particular number. You’d probably know what you want to eat because you’ve memorized the menu after eating there every other week since the placed showed up in your neighborhood five years ago. I bet you can even taste it as you are placing the order. This is the type of clarity you embrace in the art of working for yourself. Creating that focused thought that is undeniably yours and yours alone. Calling you to live your best life and to never settle for less than you can attain. The more we take successful action towards the life and work of our choosing, the more we are living the art of working for yourself. When was the last time you allowed yourself to act on an inspired thought? How did it turn out? Until next time. Be well.