How Will You Get There from Here?

Retirement vehicleThe encore stage of life can be the perfect time for Baby Boomers to renew their physical self-awareness. When you leave your full time work world, you can feel like you are waking up from a very long sleep. You now have the opportunity to assess the state of your health and well-being as you design your retirement lifestyle.

What would you discover if you viewed your body as the vehicle in which you will travel through the encore stage of your life? If you compared your body to a car, what would it look like? Would it be luxurious and finely tuned like a Maserati? Would it be tough and utilitarian as a Jeep? Or, something in between?

Vehicle Maintenance Checklist

  1. What is the comfort level of your vehicle? How do you feel within your own skin?
  2. What do you use to fuel your body from the inside? How positive is your mindset and self-talk?
  3. What do you nurture your sensory system with? What do your eyes see? What do your ears hear? What does your skin touch?
  4. How well do you maintain your body with regular medical, dental, vision, etc., examinations?
  5. What emergency services are available in case you experience any physical challenges?
  6. What external conditions do you expose your body to? How healthy and supportive is your environment?
  7. What do you use to decorate your body – hair, clothes, makeup, etc.?
  8. What retirement lifestyle activities do you expect your body to perform and what do you do to ensure its long-term reliability?

As you set out on the journey through the encore stage of your life, what additional preparations and practices will help you maintain your body in peak condition? This is the time of your life to leverage your knowledge, wisdom, and expertise to live a life of fulfillment and contribution with ease.

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

Little Changes Make a Big Difference

Accepting the changes that come from leaving their full time work world may be difficult for Baby Boomers. Even though this major life change may bring new opportunities, you may feel more comfortable with preserving the status quo. This feeling can lead to resistance, even though there is a promise for a better future in the encore stage of your life.

The next time you feel resistant to change in your retirement life and you are having a difficult time accepting it, try making the change in small increments – one little step at a time.

Here are 8 bits of wisdom to help you accept your retirement lifestyle changes:

  1. Acceptance of change doesn’t have to be some big and formal event.
  2. Change can happen in many little ways.
  3. Try making changes in small increments – say, 10%. 10% doesn’t sound like much, but the impact can be profound.
  4. Your life is actually filled with dozens of little changes happening around you and to you all the time, which hardly seem worth noting. But 10% + 10% + 10% adds up.
  5. Every one of the little changes in your life means that there are also little beginnings taking shape and building a larger whole.
  6. 10% is certainly something you can learn to accept in the encore stage of your life when it comes to change.
  7. Don’t think of change in terms of “all or nothing,” “100% or zero percent.” Instead, think of accepting change in smaller doses.
  8. Minor events can have major impacts on living your retirement life with fulfillment and contribution.

Making small changes as you adjust to your encore stage of life can help you to eliminate resistance and feel like you have more control.

What small changes will you make this week to enrich your retirement lifestyle?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

What Is the ROI of Your Time?

Clock for the encore stage of lifeWhen fully immersed in their full time work world, Baby Boomers’ personal and professional lives can be filled to overflowing with a myriad of activities every day. When you leave your work world, and all of the related activities, life can seem to move in slow motion. The empty spaces in your calendar may loom ominously. How will you spend your time?

Fill your calendar with new activities. You may now feel overjoyed to have the freedom of your encore years to do the many things you have longed to do and yet never made the time to do them.

Fill your calendar with action steps to achieve new and existing goals to make your retirement lifestyle fulfilling.

Leave open spaces in your calendar to allow yourself to be drawn to new inspiration for renewing and reinventing yourself in the encore stage of your life.

I suggest you closely observe how you actually spend your time during one full week to see where your intuition leads you and what activities draw your interest.

Witness your actions

  1. Print a one-week calendar that shows hourly increments for each day. Or, use a calendar journal with hourly increments.
  2. Record on your calendar how you spend your time during each hour of each day throughout the week.
  3. When the week has ended, take some time to reflect on what activities filled the hours of each day of your week. What activities were related, were repeated, were random? What activities inspired or energized you? What do you want to do more of, do less of?
  4. Ask yourself whether or not your actions support your values and the achievement of your retirement lifestyle goals. What changes in how you spend your time during the week would help you upgrade the quality of your life and give you a better return on your investment of time and energy?
  5. Print another one-week calendar that shows hourly increments for each day. Schedule time for those activities that you want to make sure you include each day and/or week to ensure that you live your encore stage of life to the fullest.

Know that your calendar can change again and again as you take action to continually upgrade the quality of your life. As you grow, you will experience new inspiration and interests on your journey through your retirement lifestyle.

What is the return you are currently receiving on the investment of your time?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

How to Get What You Want in Your Encore Years

Lifestyle in encore stage of lifeEnvisioning the lifestyle for the encore stage of life can feel very overwhelming to Baby Boomers as they leave their full time work world. It’s a stage of life that you have not lived before and the traditional retirement lifestyle may not fit what you want for yourself.

But, what do you want? How easy is it for you to clarify in your own mind what you want? How easy is it for you to articulate what you want so that you can clearly envision it and experience it in your encore stage of life?

Depending upon your early conditioning, it may be easy for you to envision what you want and to ask for it for your retirement lifestyle. What conditioning did you receive when you were growing up about getting what you want? Were you able to ask for what you wanted and frequently rewarded by receiving it? Or, were your wants often denied to the point that you no longer believed that your desires were worthwhile? You may have stopped allowing yourself to want anything. You may even have permitted others to tell you what to want.

No matter what your early conditioning was, your encore stage of life is a new chapter for you and you have the opportunity to make it be what you want. You do have a toolkit of inner resources which you can use to create your vision for the third phase of your life.

Visioning Toolkit

Values – reflecting back over your entire life, what have been your core values by which you have lived your life? These same values can guide you as you design your vision for the next stage of your life.

Inner strengths – what unique strengths have others recognized in you and sought you out because of these strengths? Numerous personal assessment surveys exist to help you understand your inner strengths. One such free assessment is the VIA Survey of Character Strengths at http://bit.ly/a6MN

Interests – what have you been interested in, both personally and professionally, that you want to carry forward into the encore stage of your life? How willing are you to try new experiences? What vision do you hold for what interests will manifest in this new chapter?

Mindset – what is your prevailing mindset as you design your retirement lifestyle? Is it positive and proactive, or is it negative and discouraged? You can discover your own mindset with the free assessment by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. at http://www.mindsetonline.com

Whatever vision you create for any or all aspects of your encore stage of life, know that it will be subject to change as time goes on. Trust the use of your inner resources to upgrade and alter your vision for every aspect of your life with clarity and confidence.

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

10 Tips to Transition with Ease into Your Encore Years

Transition into encore stageNavigating the transition from the full time work world to the encore stage of life can disrupt Baby Boomer’s identity. The transition period between their previous professional focused identities to their retirement lifestyle identities can feel very unsettling. What will you consider your identity to be during this period of in-between knowing?

This phase of transition allows you the opportunity of deep self-exploration and transformation. You may experience it as a major struggle or a time of wonder.

What identity do you want to take on for your encore years? What aspects of your previous identity will you carry forward that will serve you in new ways? What aspects will no longer be useful and should be released?

10 tips to transition with ease into your encore years:

  1. Have the courage to recognize that you are experiencing a major life transition.
  2. Believe in yourself and whatever higher power supports you.
  3. Be gentle and patient with yourself as you explore new ways of doing and being.
  4. Allow yourself to not have all of the answers, or be in control.
  5. Observe your habits and routines to determine which ones serve you now.
  6. Notice what you are pretending to not know.
  7. Trust that you will always have everything that you need.
  8. Practice gratitude for what you do have.
  9. Seek good company that supports and inspires you.
  10. Show up in the present moment and give your very best.

As you enter your encore stage of life, you can create whatever identity that you desire. It will include both who you are being in the world and how you spend your time during your retirement lifestyle. What are your strengths and values to tap into now to build your new identity? What strengths and value do you have to offer others as you make new contributions to society? Now is the time to create your best life yet.

My story

Whenever I experience myself going through transitions – major or minor, I refer to these ten ways to restore my sense of ease. There will be moments when I feel stuck and have no idea what to do next. Other times I will feel like I am lost in space, drifting through the unknown. When I pause and remember to consider these ten tips, my confidence and clarity are restored. I know I will make it to my next new beginning with ease.

How will you transition with ease into your encore years?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

How to Lose 25 lbs in One Week

The transition that Baby Boomers make when they leave their full time work world and enter their encore stage of life can seem chaotic. During your work world you may have experienced a certain amount of order. Your new retirement lifestyle may not seem so orderly because it is a new experience for you.

One successful way to navigate your transition into retirement is to create space and order in your life by getting rid of all of the items in your environment that no longer serve you. By decluttering, you can lose 25 lbs or more in just one week.

The idea of sorting through all of your accumulated stuff may seem daunting at first. Start with a small project that you can complete in a short time and see significant results, such as cleaning a desk or a closet. Your encore years open a new era for you, and letting go of the past will create space for what new is to come.

Your underlying motivation for decluttering can serve as the fuel to accomplish creating new space and order in your environment. What benefits will you receive from decluttering in preparation for your retirement?

  • Eliminate items that no longer serve you, and can suck your energy.
  • Offer your items that you no longer use to others who can benefit from them.
  • You may receive money from reselling your reusable items.
  • Imagine what it would be like for someone else to deal with your belongings if you should be unable to do so in the future.
  • What does your clutter say about you, and what would it tell others?
  • Allow your values to guide your decisions of what to keep to support your new retirement lifestyle, and what to eliminate.
  • If you had a major life change, like the opportunity to relocate, how long would it take you to pack?
  • What can you learn about yourself as you sort through items you may not have touched for a long time?
  • What treasures might be unearthed from your clutter?

Navigating the transition into retirement can feel unsettling. The process of sorting through your belongings and eliminating those items that you no longer use can give you a sense of purpose and accomplishment at a time when you may feel lost.

Design a plan for your project to create order and space in your environment and move forward at a pace that is appropriate for you. And, remember to ask for help. Invite friends and family to join with you in your process. Or, challenge each other to complete your own decluttering projects. Lastly, there are many talented professional organizers who have a passion to help people dispose of their unwanted belongings. To find an organizer in your area, see http://www.napo.net

What 25 lbs can you lose this week?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

How Comfortable Are You with Ambiguity?

Ambiguity for Baby BoomerThe major life change for Baby Boomers when they leave their full time work world is an external event that happens. How will you experience your transition through your change into your encore stage of life? You will go through endings and new beginnings, bridged together with periods of unknowing which can feel very unsettling in your retirement lifestyle.

If you have been deeply immersed in your full time work world, you may have felt very comfortable and confident with your responsibilities and your relationships. When you move into your retirement, you may feel overwhelmed by your unknown future. It may seem so ambiguous to you.

Your encore stage of life is a time for exploring yourself in new ways. You may feel bewildered by all of the questions you ask yourself about how to spend your time and what your identity will be. Instead of trying to take control of your life as you may have been used to doing in your work world, I suggest that you give yourself time and space to allow new understanding and new opportunities to arise. You’ve never been in your encore stage of life before. It is a new time to ask yourself new questions and make new choices for yourself.

The poem below by Rainer Maria Rilke beautifully states how to understand this time of unknowing.

Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the question now. Perhaps then, some day far in the future, you will gradually without even noticing it, live your way into the answer. ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Approach your encore stage of life with humility and patience, feeling gratitude for your capacity to expand your own self awareness. This exploration will strengthen your ability to live a retirement lifestyle of fulfillment and contribution, leaving a legacy of your choice.

What questions are you living right now?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

How to Upgrade Your Life in 2013

The New Year has begun! This is a time of year when many people commit to new goals and resolutions for the year ahead. As a Baby Boomer, what will you do to thrive in your encore stage of life this year? The choice is yours.

When you are on the threshold of retirement, you may feel overwhelmed about your unknown future. I recommend that you hold the intention that you will upgrade the quality of your life as you plan your retirement lifestyle. Use that intention as your guiding light to make your transition with ease.

One effective way to upgrade the quality of your life is to survey what is working and what is not working for you in your current lifestyle. What do you want to be doing this time next year, and what will it take to get you there?

You may feel perfectly content with your current retirement lifestyle. If so, allow yourself to be open to explore any unsought opportunities that may present themselves to you during the months ahead. By holding the intention to always focus on upgrading the quality of your life, you will make beneficial choices for yourself when such opportunities arise.

No matter where you are in your transition into your retirement lifestyle, you can upgrade the quality of your life by creating new habits. The dictionary defines the word HABIT as an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.

Looking at your own life, what new habit or habits would you like to create that would upgrade the quality of your encore lifestyle? Areas such as your health and well being, relationships, finances, etc. Pick just one or two habits to create at a time so that you will avoid feeling overwhelmed. It takes about a month for a habit to become almost involuntary when it is practiced consistently and regularly, such as working out at the gym at a specific time on specific days each week.

When you successfully achieve your new habit, celebrate the ways in which you have upgraded the quality of your life. Your achievement can inspire you to make other new habits. You will have the confidence that you have the power to make changes in your retirement life.

What new habits will upgrade the quality of your life this year?

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

 

2013: Year of Challenge

2012 was my back to basic year. It helped me get back to who I am as a person and get certain parts of my life back on track. Sometimes it is good to go back to basics and work on the easy stuff.

2013 is my year of challenges. I am challenging myself to take it up a notch. Each month will have a different challenge.

Meat

Meat (Photo credit: yum9me)

The first challenge is the Whole 30 challenge.

 

http://whole9life.com/

I am going to do my best of eating no grains, dairy and sugar. I am going to evaluate my relationship with food. More information will be available through out the month.

What is your challenge for 2013? What are you going to do differently this year?

Your Spiritual Life Coach
Brett Dupree
www.joyousexpansion.com

Wibbily Wobbily Timey Whimey

]This post is a long time coming. It has been a while since I have written in my blog. One of the reasons is that life got in the way. I had two decently tragic events in my life. One was kind of tragic sort of bummy. The other was devastating to the point of crushing. Death of close family members is never a fun thing. One of the fun parts about getting older is that, unless something happens to me, more and more of my older family members are going to die. Oh joy.

Well this blog isn’t supposed to be a bummer, it is supposed to be a rebirth. Time to come back up from the ashes of things not going as well as I would like and rededicate myself to love and joy. Take what I have learned from the current experiences and use them to serve.

Wibbly Wobbly Time

Sonic Screwdriver

Sonic Screwdriver (Photo credit: Maggie Osterberg)

I have a confession. I am a kind of a geek or nerd. I love Doctor Who. However this post is not about Doctor Who. It is about a concept that I enjoy from Doctor Who. It is about how time works.

A constant message during the spiritual workshops I have been to is that after taking such a workshop that my life can be turned upside down. All of the workshops have mentioned the fact that going deeper in spirituality can lead to radical life changes.

Before my life went through a radical change, I took a wonderful meditation workshop by Intuitive Mind. Nancy Rebecca lead a very fun introduction to meditation workshop. She mentioned that doing the meditation can lead to huge life changes, such as divorce, job changes, moving across country, the normal spiritual life changes. Warrior Sage mentioned that as well. So has Abraham.

Well I digress, I was doing the meditation twice a day, then I had to cut down to one a day. I couldn’t go to sleep after getting so joyed up. How do you fall asleep when feeling awesome and energized? Leave a comment if you know how.

Yoga

Yoga (Photo credit: RelaxingMusic)

After a month of meditating I lost a high paying job. That was a pretty big bummer. Had so many plans. Then two weeks later, my 41 year old Uncle Mike passed on. My Uncle‘s death really put the whole losing a job thing in perspective, because that was a much bigger bummer. On a scale of 1 to 10 of bummer, where 1 is a little bummer and 10 is a huge bummer, it was a million. My Uncle Mike is one of my closet family members. I love him a lot. Losing him on this life plane is very painful.

That got me to thinking about what Nancy Rebecca said about life going crazy after starting this meditation. When being told this I always thought about a cause and effect relationship. I start to meditate and then stuff starts happening.

However I cannot believe that me beginning meditation causes my Uncle’s death. I do not believe I have the power to kill people with just the power of mediation, yet. Just kidding. I also do not believe that my spiritual actions can cause anything to happen in other people’s lives. Spirit isn’t going to cause nearly 100 people to lose their jobs and kill a person just to teach me a lesson.

This leads me to my wibbily wobbly timey whimey theory. For some reason I was drawn to that meditation class. Which was interesting because I was not feeling the need to take a class. I still have my spiritual hubris mode of not needing to learn anything more thing going on. Since time isn’t just a straight line, I believe that without a shadow of a doubt that my spirit knew that a tough time was coming up and lead me to a practice that would help me get out of the funk that tough time would cause.

I have started to meditate again and I feel the cloud lifting. Life has a lot of ups and downs. Events that you do not want to happen will happen. How you react to them and how back you come back to love is your practice. It has taken me a few months to come back to love after my Uncle’s death. If it wasn’t for my spirit giving me some new tools, who knows how much longer it would have taken.

When you feel the desire to take a class or workshop, and then your life goes down the drain, take a moment to thank your higher self. Your higher self guided you to your teachings to provide you with tools to help you go through the rough waves of your life.

By Spiritual Life Coach
Brett Dupree
http://www.joyousexpansion.com