In your full time professional world you may have enjoyed the feeling of control over your activities and the approval from those around you. When Baby Boomers leave the comfort of that world, they will experience a major life change. The change requires navigating the emotional transition that arises from letting go of the past, traversing the period of unknowing, and welcoming the new beginnings. The degree to which you hang onto your need for control or approval during these phases will determine how smoothly you make your transition into your retirement lifestyle.
When you free yourself from your need for control or approval in the encore stage of life, you create space to allow unsought opportunities to arise. When you let go of the need to control what happens in your life you actually can experience greater fulfillment by being aware of the unexpected. This is a new chapter of your life. When you let go of your need for approval from those around you, you become freer to make new and exciting choices for your retirement lifestyle.
The Sedona Method is an effective process for releasing such limiting feelings. The 5 Step Process consists of:
Step 1 – Notice what you are feeling about wanting control or approval.
Step 2 – Ask yourself three questions:
- Could I let this feeling go?
- Could I allow this feeling to be here?
- Could I welcome this feeling?
Step 3 – Ask yourself if you are willing to let go of the feeling.
Step 4 – Ask yourself when you will let it go.
Step 5 – Repeat these four steps until you no longer experience your feeling.
For a more complete description of this deceptively simple, yet powerful, process, please see http://www.sedona.com
When you let go of your need for control or approval you can more easily accept the dynamics of transitioning through the change into your retirement life. Allow yourself to surrender to the process, have faith in yourself and those around you, and trust that everything is as it should be in the present moment.
What do you do to be open to unsought opportunities?
Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com