How to Get What You Want in Your Encore Years

Lifestyle in encore stage of lifeEnvisioning the lifestyle for the encore stage of life can feel very overwhelming to Baby Boomers as they leave their full time work world. It’s a stage of life that you have not lived before and the traditional retirement lifestyle may not fit what you want for yourself.

But, what do you want? How easy is it for you to clarify in your own mind what you want? How easy is it for you to articulate what you want so that you can clearly envision it and experience it in your encore stage of life?

Depending upon your early conditioning, it may be easy for you to envision what you want and to ask for it for your retirement lifestyle. What conditioning did you receive when you were growing up about getting what you want? Were you able to ask for what you wanted and frequently rewarded by receiving it? Or, were your wants often denied to the point that you no longer believed that your desires were worthwhile? You may have stopped allowing yourself to want anything. You may even have permitted others to tell you what to want.

No matter what your early conditioning was, your encore stage of life is a new chapter for you and you have the opportunity to make it be what you want. You do have a toolkit of inner resources which you can use to create your vision for the third phase of your life.

Visioning Toolkit

Values – reflecting back over your entire life, what have been your core values by which you have lived your life? These same values can guide you as you design your vision for the next stage of your life.

Inner strengths – what unique strengths have others recognized in you and sought you out because of these strengths? Numerous personal assessment surveys exist to help you understand your inner strengths. One such free assessment is the VIA Survey of Character Strengths at http://bit.ly/a6MN

Interests – what have you been interested in, both personally and professionally, that you want to carry forward into the encore stage of your life? How willing are you to try new experiences? What vision do you hold for what interests will manifest in this new chapter?

Mindset – what is your prevailing mindset as you design your retirement lifestyle? Is it positive and proactive, or is it negative and discouraged? You can discover your own mindset with the free assessment by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. at http://www.mindsetonline.com

Whatever vision you create for any or all aspects of your encore stage of life, know that it will be subject to change as time goes on. Trust the use of your inner resources to upgrade and alter your vision for every aspect of your life with clarity and confidence.

Janice Williams, Retirement Coach, www.welcomingretirement.com

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