That depends. If I’m not the one initiating change, or worse, not even asked my opinion about the change – it’s very hard!
Case in point: I belong to a charitable organization that started with just seven of us. Today it numbers close to 250. In those early days we were like a family. Today we are like a community. In the early days I played a significant role, today six people share that role. I’m not one of the six. Things change.
Last night I heard about another change that moves us away from the “one family” into segments. Like a company whose annual picnic changes to departmental picnics on different days at different parks creates a shift in the company culture this change is also going to create a change in the organizational culture. That hurts.
Whether good or bad is still to be seen, but I wasn’t part of the decision making, so it hurts even more. I found myself in a blue funk for a couple of days until I realized I needed to make some changes and I had some choices to make:
- I can resist what is, be miserable about it, make people around me miserable with my griping and complaining OR I can
- Communicate my concerns with the leadership seeking to get things changed back by working through channels
- Get involved in a leadership role again
- Take the time to understand why this change was initiated, what problem is it the answer to and seek a different solution that does not break us down into segments
- Embrace the change and see what there is for me to learn in the process
- Accept that this change is what is and determine my own path, level of commitment and continued involvement
- Leave the organization to go its own path recognizing that someday our paths may diverge.
The only choice that is unacceptable is the first. I want no place in my life for resisting complaining or griping. That’s the song of the Victim. I have yet to meet a successful business owner who is a Victim. Have You?
If you’re facing a change and struggling with it, let’s talk. Change is hard, but we don’t have to be the victim of change — or our emotions.